4 min read · Feb 2, 2021
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The dating landscape has changed. There are more ways to connect with people than ever before. While this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, many women find themselves in an interesting dilemma. To pursue or not pursue? That is the question. Ultimately, pursuing a man is the best way to get a man. This puts the ball in your court and ensures that you get what you want by asking for it, and going after it.
All women aren’t prepared to pursue a man full stop. And just because it has a high success rate doesn’t make it the solution for every woman. If you want a man to pursue you then there are certain steps you have to take to make that happen. Remember that not every man is the type to pursue but most are. Some just don’t get the chance and find that women will take over the role of pursuing before he gets a chance to.
Yes, some women are that aggressive. If you would rather have a man pursue you than the other way around there are a few ways to make that happen.
As little kids you probably played the Red Light, Yellow Light, Green Light game. You and your friends stood in a row waiting for someone to yell green light so you could sprint to the finish line. Dating isn’t too different. In order for a man to pursue you, he must feel like he has the green light. This means making it clearly known that you are interested in him. How explicit should you be? That is up to you.
But you shouldn’t leave any grey area of interest. A man that knows that he is cleared to move forward will happily do so if he is interested. Of course men like the chase but they also want to know that the game is winnable. No one wants to enter a race with Usain Bolt. If you’re interested in a man, let it be known. It doesn’t mean you have to do any more than that.
Men aren’t always creative. Sometimes instead of waiting for some over the top gesture of interest simply accepting what a man is trying to offer is enough. Give him an opportunity to give you something or do something nice for you. This permission is enough to start the pursuit. He has to feel like he can make you happy.
