by Sophia
Parent-child relationships are meant to be grounded in love, care, and support. However, toxic expectations can turn this delicate bond into a one-sided struggle.
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In some cases, parents who are unwilling to work or make responsible financial decisions burden their children with the weight of their financial sustenance, creating an unhealthy dynamic. In most cases, if not all, this never ends well.
These parents may have spent their lives avoiding responsibilities and choosing to depend on others emotionally or financially. This could be fueled by a sense of entitlement or a mistaken belief that their role as parents entitles them to perpetual financial care.
As a result, the children find themselves carrying an unfair and disproportionate load of financial support for their parents. Don't get us wrong, there are people who do exist with the mindset of treating their kids as an investment, unfortunately.
The impact of such toxic dependency can be profound. The children's own dreams, ambitions and future plans are often stifled as they bear the weight of their parent's financial needs.
Feelings of resentment and guilt bubble to the surface, putting immense strain on the parent-child relationship and causing it to reach a breaking point.
Now, with all that being said, just take a look at this particular Reddit post below...
In this situation, OP's mom is facing financial challenges after a divorce and expects her children to support her due to the belief that she gave birth to them.
OP wonders if they are being unfair in not wanting to financially support their mother, especially when they, themselves, wouldn't expect the same from their own children.
Here's what people have to say:
Just because she's a mom doesn't mean she gets a free pass.
It's her journey now, and there's no reason for guilt or responsibility on their part.
Spot on—Just because she chose to be a parent doesn't mean she's entitled to an on-demand ATM.
Don't let her drain your wallet with her choices, OP!
Show her you mean business, together.
She had a lifetime of leisure on someone else's tab, but the free buffet is officially closed.
It's like she played a game of "Monopoly" with her life choices and landed on "Go to Financial Trouble."
She can't expect her children to act as "Ctrl+Z" for her life decisions.
Parenting isn't a subscription service with automatic payments from your children.
It's like she's been playing a risky game of "Financial Chicken," expecting someone else to always swerve first.
Life isn't a "Choose Your Own Adventure" where she can flip back pages and change her decisions.
Absolutely on point—expecting her children to serve as an "Emergency Financial Assistance Hotline" is a bit too entitled, especially when she chose not to work herself.
The "Sugar Daddy Express" has left the station, and it's time for her to ride the "Independent Lane" or settle for a one-way ticket to frugality town!
Parenting shouldn't come with a "retirement plan" in mind; that's a "weird and disturbing" approach to family planning.
Looks like her "Expecto Patronum" spell for financial support backfired, and now she needs to adult her way out of this situation without relying on others' magic wands!
True, her 40-year marriage might have entitled her to a treasure trove of assets, but it seems like she ended up with a "heir of misfortune" instead of a rightful share!
Time to introduce her to the "Not-Working Challenge" game she started and let her see how it feels to be on the other side of the board.
"Entitlement Deluxe" is not on the menu for her kids, and they're not serving up any extra sides of financial support.
Like many others in their late 60s, she can make the most of these resources and embrace financial independence, leaving the responsibility of financial support to rest on her own shoulders, not her children's.
She might have played the role of a "Penny-Pinching Parent," but it's not their responsibility to be the "Piggy Bank Kids" now.
Adult children must recognize their power to liberate themselves from the chains of toxic financial entanglement. We applaud OP for standing her ground because having this kind of dynamic with a parent ain't for the weak!
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