Are Credit Cards Always Bad News? | Frugal Farm Wife (2024)

We hear a lot from the debt-free community on why credit cards are always bad. But are they? My answer? And you may want to learn more by reading my story below.

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I got my first credit card when I was 32. Even when we were going through hard times, we didn’t have credit cards, which prevented us from going into consumer debt while we learned the key to financial success.

While it is possible to go through life with zero credit history, and some people who I greatly admire have done it, knowing that we may eventually need to have a home mortgage, I decided that I wanted to build some credit.

First, a little history

When I was ten, my parents decided to get completely out of debt and live exclusively on a cash budget. I don’t think they had any credit card debt at that point, but they tore up their credit cards anyway.

And from that moment, they ingrained in us kids the value of a debt-free lifestyle.

It’s a lifestyle I’ve lived from day one. Though I’ve mentioned that we went through some pretty tough times, and during that, Gabe’s cattle business went into debt, so technically, I have had debt in some sense; I usually forget and still think of myself as having been exclusively debt-free from birth because I wasn’t involved in the business other than helping with the cows themselves, and didn’t know about the debt until afterward.

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But after getting completely out of the cattle business, building up our financial stability a little bit, and learning a lot more about managing and investing money, I started thinking about credit cards.

Why? Officially, so I could build up some credit should the need arise to buy a house before we had the full amount saved up (i.e., if something happens to the old mobile home we’re currently in).

Unofficially, because I started reading about reward travel.

I found a blog, and then a Facebook group, and then another and another, talking about these fancy credit cards that allow you to earn points when you spend money. Airline miles for some, hotel credit for others.

As someone who has always wanted to travel the world, that really appealed to me. And as a very frugal person who uses Swagbucks, Rakuten, and Ibotta regularly to make sure I’m getting the max out of every dollar, I felt like by not using these cards, I might be leaving money on the table.

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But I very quickly found out that a person with zero credit history won’t get approved for a great rewards card.

So I decided to get an entry-level Capital One card and learn more about this reward travel thing when I actually had the credit to get a rewards card. Y’all, I had to make a security deposit to get my first credit card.

After having the Capital One card for a while (and getting my deposit back and getting my credit limit raised a time or two), I decided to look back into rewards cards.

And quickly became confused.

It was a world of “get this card with this points system, then roll those points into another card and close out the first card,” etc., etc.

Some of these people are so dedicated rewards travel is almost like a full-time job!

So I decided to leave it alone.

There wasn’t much point in using my no-rewards Capital One card, so I virtually stopped using it.

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And then, one day, I was making a hotel reservation, and as I was checking out, got an offer for the Wyndham Rewards card, and I thought, hey, why not?

Maybe I wouldn’t be a top-notch rewards travel guru, but if I could get 2 points back for every dollar I spend on groceries, maybe I could earn a free hotel stay here and there.

So I applied and, to my surprise, got approved.

And now? Well, I use what I now know is a low-level rewards card for every purchase I can because, you know what? I don’t care if it’s low-level. It earns me free hotel stays, which is amazing when I’m driving 800 miles one way to visit family.

So are all credit cards bad?

Obviously, I don’t think so.

Credit cards are amoral. They have no soul.

The good or the bad happens in what you do with them.

It’s really an individual decision.

Can you have a credit card and stay out of debt?

There’s no shame in saying no to credit cards to keep yourself on the right financial path. In fact, just the opposite. That’s bravery. That’s standing firm in what you believe in.

But are you the kind of person who can stay on your target budget while using your credit card to pay for thingsand pay that card off every month without fail?

Then go for it! Take advantage of the system and earn those rewards!

My Experience with credit cards so far

So far, my two credit card experiences are the no-rewards Capital One card and the Barclay’s Wyndham Rewards Visa card.

Capital One’s app is very easy to use, and they make it easy to pay off the full amount every single month with just the tap of a finger. Something I took for granted until I got my second card.

Barclay’s app is similar to Capital One with an exception: They really don’t want you to pay the full bill. Like, really, really. And I get it – they make their money off of people paying interest on their debt. Credit cards aren’t evil, but maybe credit card companies are just a little bit.

Anyway, you can look at the full amount owed, tap over to “pay bill,” select “custom payment,” and then enter the full amount (which I’ve already forgotten, so I have to go back and look again), so it’s not a huge deal, it’s just not easy like it is with Capital One.

Are the points worth a lot? Not really. It takes several thousand points for a free hotel stay or about 1,500 for a greatly reduced hotel stay, which is what I usually do. So far, I’ve averaged earning just over a thousand points each month using it for as many household expenses as I can (it’s specifically against the terms of use to use it for business expenses).

Set Yourself Up for Credit Card Success

If you choose to have a credit card, here are a few tips for getting the most out of it:

  • Keep a close eye on your spending. One of the reasons so many financial gurus recommend against them is that credit cards are easy to overspend on. So keep an eye on it. Most credit cards have an app that makes this easy.
  • Treat it like a cash envelope. If you’re familiar with Dave Ramsey, then you know his cash envelope system of allotting a certain amount of cash to each budget category and putting it in labeled cash envelopes to prevent overspending. With a credit card, you have no physical limit, so it takes self-discipline to make sure you don’t slide that card when you shouldn’t. But you can do it. You can pretend there’s an $80 limit on your card when you walk into the store.
  • Pay it off in full every. single. month. This is non-negotiable. I don’t care how many points you can earn; carrying credit card debt is never worth it. Either stay out of debt or cut up your cards. And do not use your credit card if you don’t have money in the bank to cover it.
Are Credit Cards Always Bad News? | Frugal Farm Wife (2024)

FAQs

How to stop wife from using credit card? ›

For these, know that you can call your credit card issuer and have your spouse removed as an authorized user if you don't want them to charge to the account.

Is credit card debt split in a divorce? ›

The debt on the card will be treated like all other accounts in community property states, and split equally. In common law states, a judge has more discretion. You can remove yourself as co-signer by asking the primary user to allow you to, although the creditor may not agree if the cosigner still does not qualify.

Should married couples have their own credit card? ›

Sharing a credit card can help the partner with the lower credit score start to build their credit and raise their score. There are two options for sharing a card, Kuderna explains. You can open a joint card or have the spouse with the lower credit score become an authorized user on the other's credit card.

Should I pay off debt before divorce? ›

It's easier said than done, but the best scenario by far is to pay off your debt before or during the divorce. Your financial lives usually get jumbled together in the course of a marriage. This includes your financial assets, but also your financial debts or liabilities.

What is financial infidelity in a marriage? ›

Financial infidelity occurs when one partner hides or misrepresents financial information from the other, such as keeping secret bank accounts or hiding purchases. It does not necessarily involve marital infidelity, though it can lead to divorce.

Can I sue my wife for using my credit card? ›

In California, when a couple marries, all assets they acquire following the union are deemed marital assets under their community property laws. Essentially, this means they are owned equally by both parties in the marriage. As such, any debt acquired by your spouse during your marriage essentially becomes yours.

Should my wife and I get separate credit cards? ›

Even if you manage finances jointly, each partner should have several accounts on which they're the primary cardholder. After all, having your own accounts will allow you to build your credit history and snag welcome offers on new cards.

How to handle credit cards as a married couple? ›

Combining credit card forces
  1. Get a joint credit card. Some couples opt to open a joint credit card account. ...
  2. Add your partner as an authorized user. You can add your partner as an authorized user. ...
  3. Keep your accounts separate. Another option is to manage your finances individually and keep your credit card accounts separate.

Why is my husband's credit score higher than mine? ›

Why spouses may have different credit scores. Your spouse may have a different credit score because of your different credit histories. Information that is part of your individual credit history includes: Payment practices: Showing a history of consistent payments on time can improve your credit score.

How much does a divorce lower your credit score? ›

In conclusion. Although divorce is a life event that can impact your finances significantly, it doesn't necessarily hurt your credit score.

Is it better financially to separate or divorce? ›

Separating can be a financial blessing when compared to divorce. It allows spouses to remain married and still live apart. This can be less expensive, as separation can protect existing benefits. You can continue to share health insurance and pensions that may otherwise be lost in a divorce.

How can I afford to live on my own after divorce? ›

Below are some crucial financial steps to take post-divorce to start living your life the way you want as soon as possible.
  1. Reassess Your New Income.
  2. Decide if Keeping the House is Financially Feasible.
  3. Find Affordable Housing.
  4. Build Your Personal Credit.
  5. Practice Minimalism.

Can my wife use my credit card without my permission? ›

Just one example of identity theft is when a spouse opens a credit card in the other spouse's name without their knowledge or consent. This act not only violates the trust within the relationship but also constitutes a criminal offense.

How do I stop a family member from using my credit card? ›

If you dispute a $20 charge made by a family member, your card issuer may just refund it. If your family member charges $2,000, or if they use your credit card every month, then your card issuer will most likely want you to file a police report. You're not responsible for the charge, but your family member is.

Can I get in trouble for using my husband's credit card? ›

If you are not a signer on his card, then technically they could accept charges. You do not have permission to use his card and if you signed his name without his permission then you committed fraud.

How can I stop someone from using my credit card? ›

Contact your credit card company's fraud department

The first thing you should do is call your credit card company and report the fraud. This will stop the scammer from using your card information for further fraud. Here's what to do: Review your credit card statement and highlight any unfamiliar or fraudulent charges.

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